Behaving maturely is the end goal of character development. Everyone gets to an age where they drop childhood behavior and embrace adulthood. In the adulthood stage, consequences for actions are real. Every adult is expected to conduct themselves in a manner that brings positive results. As an adult, you focus on yourself and your destiny, which demands maturity. These are the simple ways, you can build up your mature behaviors.
- Forgiveness and letting go
You will hurt people and people will hurt you. Accept it early. When you get hurt, learn to forgive. Let go of the pain caused by others. It does not matter how deep the pain cuts, let go of anger and bitterness. Never hold up a grudge against anyone and never take anything personally unless it is personal. Do not give other people the opportunity to mess up with your feelings. Although you are seeking maturity, learn to have the heart of a child. Forgive quickly. Learn your lessons and move past the pain. It is unwise and unhealthy to carry pain inflicted by others.
2. Choose Loyalty
Choose to have a small circle and stay loyal to your friends. Make loyalty a deliberate decision. Agree with yourself to contribute to the lives of your friends. Decide to be available for your friends in good times and bad. Your loyalty should be a decision made from within instead of what your friends do to you. This is the kind of loyalty that is authentic and genuine. Show up at your friend’s celebration, celebrate with them when things go well, support their business, and believe in their dreams.
3. Become an expert in an area
Choose an area you are passionate about and work on yourself to become the best person in that area. Pay the price of rising to the top level. Read books required to raise your level. Attend seminars or listen to people who have excelled in the area you love. Getting expert status earns you respect and gives you confidence. Your expertise must contribute to the lives of others beyond yourself. You will appear responsible when you have attached value to yourself. Whatever you are passionate about, become an expert at it.
4. Accept that you do not know everything
Becoming an expert in one area makes you an amateur in another area. Maturity is having a student mentality. You must agree that other people are better than you in other areas. You must always submit yourself to learning if you want information about a specific area. Learn to remain silent in areas where you are a beginner. Allow other people to shine in their area of expertise. You will open yourself to learning when you give others a chance and they will also honor you when you allow them to display what they can do.
5. Face Your Problem
Adulthood is challenge-filled. It begins immediately after one clocks 20 years. In early adulthood, we never know the challenges of adulthood since we carry the childliness in teenagehood. In mid-20s, the reality of adulthood kicks in. We realize our actions directly affect us and the people we love. We begin to practice restraint, silence, and self-control. Instead of complaining about what is happening, we face our problem. Some of us become serious with our jobs, others upgrade their education, some shape their character, and others become responsible with their time. Everyone becomes focused on the problems in their life.
6. Set Goals
In adulthood, you appreciate the law of process. Microwave mentality slowly evaporates from your mindset. You agree with the power of patience and persistence. You begin to set goals for your personal and professional life. You set goals for your finances, family, and personal growth. Your life becomes focused on meeting the goals in the time you have settled. Everything around your life starts to revolve around the goals you have set. You develop habits that align with your goals and the friends you attract align with your goals.
7. Practice Self-control
Self-control is the zenith of maturity. As you mature, you become conscious of how you speak, dress, and appear. You are mindful of the thoughts and information that get to your heart and mind. You start practicing calmness even in difficult situations. Your emotions are no longer triggered by things happening on the outside. You have taught your inner man to rise above situations that initially caused you to overreact or become defensive. You might not be where you want but maturity is when you desire to be more self-controlled.
8. Do Not Give Up
Now that you are an adult, you do not have the luxury of giving up on your dreams. Your passion for success is more than the fear of failure. You would rather try repeatedly than give up on your dreams. When others do not believe in your dream, you still hold on to them. In times when you feel like a fool, you still hold on to the hope that things will work out. You are relentless in your pursuit of success. You interpret failure as a lesson to teach you the way to success. The option to give up can only come when you have achieved your dreams.
9. Work on Yourself
By the time you have reached adulthood, you realize you have been holding on to an unhealthy and toxic character. You also learn of an existing pool of knowledge you must explore to achieve your dream. You begin to understand the importance of having a good character over achieving material things. As you focus on achieving your goals, you also work on your character. You drop the toxic traits you tolerated as you grew up, strengthen the characters that make you unique, and begin learning characters that are in line with your identity. Your adulthood is focused on learning good habits and breaking bad ones.
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